How to Use Humor to Improve Your Relationships

Humor has long been considered one of the most effective tools to judge the quality of any relationship. If there is laughter present, you can assume that the relationship is a healthy one. When the laughter ceases you can be quite certain that the relationship is on the down slide. This laughter barometer can be applied to any relationship at home, at work and at play. Laughter means that you're having fun and fun means that things are going well.. Look at the relationships around you. Do the couples laugh a lot together? Has the laughter stopped in some of your relationships?
Here are a few ideas you can use to make certain that laughter remains an ever-present reality in your relationships thus ensuring their quality and endurance. Remember introducing humor to previously humorless relationships might take time but the results will be worth the effort. Start slowly by working on your own fun loving, cheery disposition. Laughter and humor are contagious so it will not be long before others catch the bug.

• Remember that a sense of humor is learned, not inherited.


• Begin to cultivate an atmosphere of humor and laughter in your relationships. Try to enjoy and share humor as often as you can.


• Learn to laugh at yourself. If you don't, you leave the job to others.


• Watch comedy movies and television programs as often a possible.


• Encourage others to share their humor. Listen and appreciate it when they do. When someone sees that, you have enjoyed their humorous contribution they will be eager to continue sharing.


• If you don 't laugh as much as you used to and want to correct the situation start associating with humorous, fun loving people and avoid the downers.

Who Controls Your Mind

Who Controls Your Mind?

Few people are aware of the thoughts that pass through their minds. Thinking is performed like a habit, in an automatic manner. If the thoughts are positive, then it is all right, but if they are negative, they may cause trouble.

The mind is like small child, who accepts and takes for granted whatever it sees or hears, without judgment and without considering the consequences. If you let your mind behave as it likes and give it complete freedom, you lose your freedom.

We are constantly flooded with thoughts, ideas and information coming through the five senses, other people, the newspapers and TV. These thoughts, ideas and information penetrate the mind whether we are aware of this process or not.

This outside flow influences our behavior and reactions. It influences the way we think, our preferences, likes and dislikes. This means that we let outside powers shape our lives. So where is freedom?

Most people think and believe that their thoughts originate from them, but have they ever stopped and considered whether their thoughts, desires, likes and dislikes are really theirs? Maybe they are outside influences that they have unconsciously accepted.

In order to reduce the power of outside influences and thoughts on your life, you need to be aware of the thoughts and desires that enter your mind, and ask yourself whether you really like them, and are willing to accept them into your life. Analyze your motives and actions, and you will be surprised to find out that many of them were triggered by outside influences.

Learn not to accept every thought that you encounter. Find first whether it is for your own good to follow it. It may not be so easy at the start, because the mind will revolt against this control. If you want to be the master of your mind and life, you should not let other people's thoughts; desires and motives rule your life, unless you consciously choose so.

4 Little Known Secrets of Meditation

Secret #1: The True Purpose of Meditation
Many people feel a sense of fascination when confronted with the possibility of mystic visions, psychic intuition and heightened mental functioning. While meditators often report these sorts of improvements, these experiences should not be the primary reason for practice. The purpose of meditation is to bring us back to ourselves.
As we become healthier, happier and realize greater self-awareness, the other benefits of meditation begin to follow naturally -- improved mental functioning, greater intuition as well as greater access to unconscious resources and abilities.
Secret #2: Distraction Does Not Equal Failure
Meditation is not work in the sense that you have to "force" yourself to concentrate completely for long periods. If we consciously try to prevent thinking, it's going to have a negative impact on the meditation.
Instead, whenever we become lost in thought or confusion, we simply acknowledge those thoughts and then gently return the attention to the object of the meditation. We do this as many times as distraction or thought occurs. Eventually, the mind becomes calmer and discursive thought begins to slow.
Secret #3: Insight Alone Is Not Enough
Insight alone will not transform our lives. Meditation is likely to help us by giving us larger perspectives and increasing clarity of thought. However, although our sense of inner guidance might become stronger, unless we ACT on that guidance, we will never manifest the changes we truly want in our lives.
This doesn't just mean we need to take action in our outer world, for example, having an honest conversation with a friend or paying a bill.
It also means we must actively request the assistance of the unconscious in a clear and persistent way. When you do that, as I teach in "Secrets of Meditation, Energy and Manifestation," you find yourself magnetically drawn toward your dreams with an irresistible impulse.
Secret #4: Learn To Let Go
Once you have made your request, it's important that you let go. Don't be concerned with HOW you're going to get what you truly want in your life. Needing to know how can hamper the process of making it manifest in the outer world. Learn to trust your unconscious.
Some changes -- perhaps all of them -- will happen automatically. I have personally found that many of my destructive habits simply dropped away with minimal conscious effort.

Humans Who Are Disrespected Seek Revenge

The easiest way to gain enemies is to disrespect people. Inherently for some reason, humans who are disrespected more often than not seek revenge. This should be a warning of what happens in business deals, corporate brainstorming (with regards to hard earned and developed Organizational Capital) or even an outcast member of society. What is the most unfortunate situation in all of these instances is that the whole of the group loses from the possible ideas and innovations of these individuals. A corporate executive who starts to attack their peers at work starts and unending spiral of negativity, thus killing productivity, innovation and higher thought which is what a company most needs to succeed. In the case of an individual in society, we end up with those who withdraw their talents to the whole or plot the demise of the fiber holding the civilization together. We see this with vindictive writers, uni-bomber, and small fringe groups promoting their agendas.
As an observer of culture and society, philosophy and psychology, innovation and invention, science and religion, industry and philanthropy; I can safely say that although we have done better than any other previous civilization or country, we can do better and we must work on the elements which are needed to improve the flow of thought. Having participated in almost all categories of the human endeavor in our civilization, both from on the inside and outside, it often amazes me how we as a society over look some of the most obvious quick fixes to the unnecessary over indulged sound and fury which slows the forward progression of mankind at every turn. Think about this. The best time

Quotes to Think About

"There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance? That principle is contempt prior to investigation. ? Herbert Spencer"
Albert Einstein - "We are seeking for the simplest possible scheme of thought that will bind together the observed facts."
"If we do not expect the unexpected, we will never find it.” Heraclitus
"Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." - William James
"I feel that if we could be serious for an hour and really fathom, delve into ourselves as much as we can, we should be able to release, not through any action of will, a certain sense of energy that is awake all the time, which is beyond thought.” Jiddhu Krishnamurti, Madras, 1961