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Love Is The Law Of Life:
All love is expansion, all selfishness is contraction. Love is therefore the only law of life. He who loves lives, he who is selfish is dying. Therefore, love for love's sake, because it is law of life, just as you breathe to live.
It's Your Outlook That Matters:
It is our own mental attitude, which makes the world what it is for us. Our thoughts make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. The whole world is in our own minds. Learn to see things in the proper light.
Life is Beautiful:
First, believe in this world - that there is meaning behind everything. Everything in the world is good, is holy and beautiful. If you see something evil, think that you do not understand it in the right light. Throw the burden on yourselves!

Steady Mind in Depression

We cannot make up our mind when we are in some kind of mental Depression. That is the moment we should decide ourselves to be in steady mind because mental depression can make you to run to any extremes. Therefore, we should try to follow some techniques when we forced to be such situation. These factors can help us to get out of such bad situation.

• Be Fearless when doubt is stopping you from expressing yourself


• To Persevere when you feel like quitting


• To Accept and respect yourself unconditionally


• To feel excitement and bring Spontaneity into your life.


• To be Strong and have faith as you let go of hurts from the past


• To put your "human" tendencies aside and seek Balance

Real Facts to Life

Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.  -- The Buddha

"The best way to predict your future is to create It." -- Unknown

Motivational Quotes, Inspirational Quotes, Quote of the Day

• Quote: Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin As self-neglecting.

Author: William Shakespeare Henry V
Keywords: self-care self-esteem

• Quote: Each of us is born with two contradictory sets of instructions: a conservative tendency, made up of instincts for self-preservation, self-aggrandizement, and saving energy, and an expansive tendency made up of instincts for exploring, for enjoying novelty and risk--the curiosity that leads to creativity belongs to this set. However, whereas the first tendency requires little encouragement or support from outside to motivate behavior, the second can wilt if not cultivated. If too few opportunities for curiosity are available, if too many obstacles are put in the way of risk and exploration, the motivation to engage in creative behavior is easily extinguished.

Author: Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Keywords: safety risk exploration creativity energy novelty opportunities behavior

• Quote: Becoming generous, carrying someone else for a while, does amazing things for your self-esteem. Selfishness--even in the name of an injustice--lowers your self-respect and creates shame.

Author: Barbara Sher
Keywords: generosity giving self-esteem, selfishness, self-respect, shame

Some Ways To Improve Your Life

1. Make a definite plan for success. Fix a time limit to this plan. Determine the benefits of your goal.
2. Hold on to a positive attitude. See the best in any situation. Positive thinking heals your body and vitalizes your mind. A negative outlook is self-destructive.
3. Give your employer your best service. Even if you're underpaid, you'll create a twofold bonus. First, you will increase your level of skill, and this can translate to a higher income later on. Second, you'll win sufficient goodwill to attract the favor of your boss or a competitor. The more you give, the more you receive.
4. Continue to learn more about your job. Knowledge is power, and power creates increased income.
5. Work on being calm and even-tempered. An angry or bitter person is hard to get along. Along with your positive mental attitude come positive emotions. This enhances both your relationships and your health.
6. Share your goals with others. It is easier to achieve something when you're working on it with someone else. If your goal is too individualistic to share with others, at least get some moral support, some people to cheer you on your way.
7. Put your faith in a higher power. Such faith removes many fears, like fear of poverty, criticism, ill health, loss of liberty, old age, and death.
8. Avoid bad habits, especially those offensive to other people. For example, criticizing others, gossiping, slandering. Also, avoid taking in toxic material, like alcohol and cigarettes. Why would you want to ruin your liver and lungs?
9. Plan your work and complete each day's work. Include in your plan, ways to work more efficiently. Don't leave for tomorrow what can be done today. Tomorrow will have its own demands. Progress means moving forward.
10. Enjoy your work. If you don't feel enthused, it's time for a change.

Its Better to Give than to Receive

It's better to give than to receive." You've probably heard that popular saying.
From the Bible, Acts 20.
"In everything I showed you that by working hard in this manner you must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He Himself said, `It is more blessed to give than to receive.' "
When you give something from your heart without expecting anything in return, you release a powerful force that will trigger your good deed to "bounce" back to you in amazing, and sometimes unusual ways.
I firmly believe that whatever you impart to others will come back to you a hundred fold. You are doing yourself abig favor by helping someone in need. By doing even the smallest acts of generosity, you are inviting good vibrations to come into your life.
Speaking of happiness, the act of giving can summon the spirit of joy to come into your heart. How would you feel when you’ve given something to your less fortunate neighbors? Let me tell you that nothing could brighten up my day more than hearing them express their most heartfelt gratitude and seeing their smiles extend from ear to ear.
Giving is also a healthy habit. It could prolong your life by in stilling within you an inner sense of peace and accomplishment.
Just like all things in life, giving has its limitations. Being too generous can have its toll. Your kindness might be taken advantage of and people might abuse your good intentions. Beware of individuals who are continuously seeking your aid. It's better to teach them how to solve their problems than to always attend to their needs.

The Beauty of Life

"An unexamined life is not worth living."-- Socrates
I have just finished reading a most astounding statement from A.H. Almaas's book Space cruiser Inquiry. In this book, which discusses the concept of open inquiry as an optimal way to get in touch with your true being, he gives a beautiful description of the beauty of life. The simplicity and beauty of this sentence struck me hard! He says, "The beauty of life is that it can be a continuous opening to the full range of experience and richness possible for the human being."
This was an extremely beautiful quote and had a very true ring to it. Life CAN be lived to be a continuous opening to the full range of experience and richness possible for the human being. In life you can find out what you're capable of doing; to continually explore, and then act on the discovery of that exploration to create more experiences to learn and grow even more. You can learn to become more flexible. You can start to experiment with your range; what you are capable of doing with your life. What you choose to do can be below the range of what you can do, but that is your choice; not a limitation that you are unaware of.
The important distinction is that you become aware of your full range of possibilities and then choose which possibility you want to act on rather than being limited because you are unaware of what you can do. Life offers us this chance to continually open up and become more aware of the powers that are residing within us. Are you using the change for this kind of growing that life offers? On the other hand, have you stopped inquiring and accepted the limited position, which tells you that you can't grow further? What you believe will determine what you do about exploring your true being and capabilities. What will you believe?

Building Bridges, Not Walls!

Only twenty years ago, people would casually stroll the neighborhood, stop and chat with each other or walk down the street and greet you cordially. Nowadays people walk at a very fast pace and for the most part just walk past you looking at the ground lost in their own thoughts. It seems less people will say hello to a stranger.
Therefore, it seems to a lesser degree with family and friends. Have we in this society lost some of our ability to communicate? Are we so involved in our own problems that we just don't really see people anymore?
There is a misconception that if you are talking to someone that you are communicating. This is not necessarily so. There is a difference between talking at someone and actually communicating. Talking at someone and not allowing an exchange of ideas does not promote a harmonious situation or solutions to a situation. For real communication to occur, an exchange of ideas needs to occur for understanding and possible resolutions.
Our society today its all about anything that makes things quick and easy. Unfortunately this does not always work, especially if you are trying to resolve something.
One thing I have noticed is that people tend to put all their attention on the things we don't like in our spouse, friend or co-worker. If this is all you can put your attention on then you are doomed to a separation and ill feelings to that individual.
Here is something that I would suggest you try, no matter how bad your relationship is. We of course all have baggage no matter who you are. There is no such thing as a perfect person. So that said, knowing that we all have something that will annoy people, I suggest that you find something to admire about that individual. Everyone has good or strong points so if you start to focus on that instead of all things bad you may be amazed to find, oh my god, there is good there too. This is what you saw in the first place that drew you to that person. If you do this enough, your feelings will revert to the original way you felt about that person. This is what I mean about building bridges, not walls. It is very easy to build walls but if you learn to find what is good in people, you will build bridges instead. How fine is that!

Tips for Successful Living

1. Constant affirmation without accountability is a sure-fire way to cripple a child. In other words, belief in you without responsibility leads to a sense of entitlement.
2. Raise your hand if you've ever been rejected for anything, anytime, anywhere. We all have. How would you like to have a nice little four-letter word for the next time you're rejected? It's: NEXT. Next sale, next job, next date, next whatever.
3. Beware of people who use their own emotional pain as a tool to manipulate others instead of as a motivation to change themselves.
4. It's a humbling and sobering experience to have a child who wants to be like you.
5. A successful marriage requires selective and strategic ignoring. The right things to ignore are little habits and irritating peculiarities that we all have. The problem comes when you select the wrong things to ignore.
6. I wonder if it's a bad thing to believe that football on TV is one of the first signs of fall approaching.
7. Most folks live with the illusion that worrying about something can actually make a difference. The only possible way that worrying can make a difference is if the worrying motivates you to take action to do something about the subject of your worry.
8.People often say, "Well, I'm just going with the flow." The problem with going with the flow is that many times the flow is lost and does not know where it is going.

Discernment and Judgement

Discernment is an inner guide or compass. It is loving and expansive, and offers freedom, honor and options. Judgment on the other hand dishonors, condemns, and contradicts.
Judgment is all about others. It always sets up a polarity or emotional value of this is good and this is bad. An example of this is: A person looks at a brown car and decides brown cars are boring and ugly.
Being judgmental forms a vicious cycle. The very nature of judgment is to always focus or look at the bad. Moreover, "like attracts like" looking for the bad becomes the black DOT, or primary focus. The alarming reality of this is, not only does one only focus on the bad in others, but also that is all they can see about themselves. To be honest, one first becomes intimate with their own feelings of shame and inferiority. Then as a way to get relief, they target someone else to shame, so they can feel superior (rather than inferior).
Discernment on the other hand is assessing a situation objectively, with no emotional attachment, to decide what ones decision is. In this case: A person looks at the brown car and decides they do not care for the color of the car. Discernment is all about oneself this is not for me. Discernment does not offer excuses, blame others or make empty promises. Discerning individuals do not change the facts to what they think they should say, they conform their actions to the facts.
Discerning individuals accept others just as they are. In addition, they are aware they have choices or options that can assist them so their best interest is served. For example, I accept that my co-worker talks a lot about how "rough" her life is. For me, this is not something I enjoy hearing or taking a part in. In a conversation if I notice she is doing this, I have options on what I can do. I can change the direction of the conversation to a topic that we both enjoy; I can excuse myself from her company, etc. Discernment is all about choosing what kind of experience and life you want for yourself.

Keep Hope Alive - Emily Dickinson

"Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune without the words, And never stops at all.." ~ Emily Dickinson
A bittersweet quality permeates the air in September. In the northern hemisphere, we say our reluctant goodbyes to summer. When September rolls around there is something in our early programming that kicks in. We gear up for all of the activities associated with fall. Kids return to school and we all begin to pick up the pace.
We never really do finish school while we are alive on this planet. We continue to learn life lessons and hopefully grow through all of our experiences. Much of our earlier training at home and school prepares us to face life as warriors or worriers. The good news is that we can learn to become more resilient if we are willing to do our "hope" work. That's right. That wasn't a typo. I meant, "hope" work. Too many of us have been basing our lives for far too long, on what is reasonable and evident rather than on faith and belief.

Important Things to Know / Remember About Life

• I love you not because who you are, but because who I am when I am with you


• There is no one in this world that worth your tears, and if they are, they will never make you cry.


• If someone loves you not in the way you would like to, it does not mean that they don not love you in their own way


• A good friend is the one that will hold your hand and will touch your heart.


• The worst way to miss someone is to sit right next to him or her, knowing you will never be with him or her.


• Never stop smiling even when you are sad. Someone might just fall in love with your smile.


• Do not waste your time with someone who does not care wasting his or her time with you.


• You might be just "a someone" in this world, but for someone, you are the entire world.


• You might need to need many "wrong" people before you will meet the "right" one. Like that, you will highly appreciate them will it will happen.


• Do not cry when it is over? Be glad that it happened.


• Do not "fight" for things to happen. The best things in life happen when you least expect them.


• Be a better person and know always where you are coming from and who you are before you meet someone new, and hope that they will know you for who you are.


• There will always be someone that will heart you, but you need to keep on trusting people? Just with more caution.

Alone But Not Lonely

In today's fast paced society, we have become accustomed to filling the eeriness of silence with fluff. We turn to many distractions as a means of escaping feelings of idleness or boredom. However, the main thing we wish to elude is loneliness. Solitude does not have to alienating or lonesome. In fact, solitude and loneliness are distinctly separate.
The death of a loved one or the inability to find people who understand you can leave you feeling isolated. Webster's dictionary plainly describes loneliness as "being without companions. It's natural to experience emptiness while longing for love or acceptance. Loneliness is therefore an emotive state that can be experienced whether or not one is physically alone.
Geoffrey F. Fisher said, “In cities no one is quiet but many are lonely; in the country, people are quiet but few are lonely we tend to fill loneliness with all types of distractions. For example, some single women would rather spend a Friday night with a man they have no genuine interest in, than spend the night alone. They long for a way of killing time while they await the man they are actually seeking. Then there are young adults who are involved in cliques where they cannot really relate to their companions. However, they would rather feel accepted on a superficial level than risk feeling outcast. So, what is it about being alone that scares us?
Do not be spooked by the unfamiliarity of silence. Silence can be an amazing thing. It teaches you how to truly listen. It teaches you to pay attention to what is going on inside of you. Only when we are alone, can we have the space and peace we need to think without being outwardly influenced. It therefore becomes easier to make important decisions as well as identify whatever feelings are culminating within.
Get in touch with yourself so that you can make conscious decisions rather than simply react to emotions. Appreciate the time you have to yourself. Let the peace and understanding you find had better equip you for the commotion of today's world.

Resource:
Denni Gill is an up-and-coming Canadian poet.

Can Money Buy You Happiness?

Well, doesn't that depend on what is causing you to be unhappy, in the first place?
If you've just lost a loved one, no amount of money will make you happy, only time and your own attitude will eventually lessen the pain and hopefully bring some joy back into yourlife.
However, if a stack of unpaid bills is facing you each day, wouldn't enough money to pay them, not make you happy? If you are someone you love, needs expensive medical care and you can't afford it, would money not be the happy answer?
So, before we adopt some of these truisms about money, we should see how they apply to the reality of the situation. Money is not a "magic bullet", but then in life, what is?But the effectiveness of money, like most of the things we use and have come to rely on in our world, it is all relative.
Being without money does not automatically make someone unhappy, but neither does having money guarantee happiness. Rich people are happy because they don't have to be worried and unhappy about not being able to pay bills, make purchases they want, travel, entertain and so on.
But if they became ill and money could not help, they would be just as unhappy and miserable as the poor person who cannot afford the treatment in the first place.
Money cannot buy anyone more time, but it can give you more freedom to choose how you use your time.
A very happy by-product, choice!
"Freedom of choice", if there was ever a magical phrase, that one is it! Money buys that happiness!
Lack of money or too little money, limits the choices we can make in and about our lives.

What is Meditation?

Negative forces like jealousy, hatred, fear, doubt, worry, despair, guilt, resentment, anger, pride hatred and anxiety surround us. These are the dominating forces of the universe. These negative forces day in and day out constantly attack us. The only medicine to fight this deadly disease is Meditation. Through Meditation, we can get everlasting peace that is what we know the "Divine Peace". To grow in light and to fulfill ourselves in light and purity we need to practice meditation regularly.
What is actual Meditation?
Meditation does not mean just sitting quietly for 15 to 20 minutes. It requires concentration. You have to calm and quieter your mind. It requires conscious effort. You have to free yourself from repetitive and unwanted thoughts that distract your attention. As you learn to calm your mind, you feel a new creation is dawning inside of you. When your mind is vacant and tranquil your whole existence becomes an empty vessel. You will attract infinite peace, joy peace happiness. This is actual meditation.

How many ways are there to Meditate?
1. Silence your mind. Once you do that, you are in a position to please and Fulfill God.
2. The Second way to meditate is to empty your heart. Human heart is full of chaos and turmoil. As you empty your heart, there is a Divine peace and harmony, which will fill your heart.
3. The third thing is through prayer. Prayer is nothing but a communion between Spirit and Form. If you pray from your heart all your fears, doubts, sorrow, resentment and anxiety will be eliminated and joy, peace and tranquility will fill your heart.

Positive Self-Talk

One of the most powerful influences on your attitude and personality is what you say to yourself. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your thoughts, feelings, and your actions. By controlling your inner dialogue, or your "self talk," you can begin to assert control over every part of your life.
Your self-talk determines the majority of your emotional life. The words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and how you feel about external events, will trigger the emotions of happiness or unhappiness that you experience. When you see things positively and you look for the good in every situation and in each person, you will become a very positive and optimistic person. Since the quality of your life is determined by how you feel moment to moment, you should make it a habit to only think and talk about what you want and keep your mind off what you do not want.
Remember that it is impossible to learn, grow and become successful without adversity and difficulties. You must rise above them in order to become a better person. So, welcome each difficulty as a learning experience and look into the situation to find something good or beneficial in it.
Always, keep your thoughts on your future and on your goals. Constantly think about the person you want to become. When things go wrong temporarily, respond by saying to you, "I believe in the perfect outcome of every situation in my life." Resolve to be cheerful and pleasant in every situation. Resist every temptation to respond to a situation negatively. View disappointment as an opportunity to grow stronger, and talk to yourself and others about it in a positive and optimistic way.
When you practice positive self-talk, and keep your words and your mental pictures consistent with your goals, nothing can stop you from being the success you are meant to be.

Changes Happens or Made

Choke? This is the time when you feel overwhelmed, confused, and fearful and often do nothing. Spending too much time in this phase can seriously undermine your energy, usurp your resources and make it more difficult to deal with the change. Handle the Hurdles? You "wake up" and realize you have to do SOMETHING, sometimes anything. Occasionally people in this phase can see the priorities and begin to handle them- more often they avoid the most important issues in an effort to just do something.
Access Support? This is the turning point. You realize that you cannot do it on your own. You need a trusted ear. You require someone who can see through the confusion of the change and help you build a viable plan of action. Albert Einstein said that we cannot solve a problem on the same level at which it was created. In order to find that other level you need someone who can look at the whole picture, someone who isn't clouded by the emotional responses, someone who has your best interests in mind.
New Possibilities? Embedded in each change is a possibility. If you continue an old pattern of behavior or thinking? You will miss it. Unfortunately, we are often myopic when it comes to recognizing creative solutions. This step requires someone to help you see and hold the larger possibility, the picture that you may be missing.
Grow to the Next Level? Many people skip over this part. If you do - the whole gift that is at the center of the change will elude you. In order to "do the change", make it work FOR you, it is essential that you develop the qualities, the skills, and the heart to effectively work with the change. As you do this you begin to recognize whole new levels of satisfaction and power within yourself. These developments are yours- you will use them in everything else you attempt in life. They become second nature.
Enjoy? This is the fabulous stage when you can step back and look at the whole experience you have been through. You recognize yourself as the prime navigator of the change. You can feel the sun of success, the warm breezes of pleasure as you begin to really ENJOY where you have arrived. In addition, you KNOW that if needed you can navigate CHANGE again.
If you are going through a divorce, or if success has been yours and you still find yourself unsatisfied, or if there is a new change that has occurred or is on the horizon? Give yourself the gift of the effective support and mentoring that will move you through it to the warm, safe harbor you desire..

Positive Mental Attitude

1. Smile
2. Laugh
3. Greet people courteously
4. Be enthusiastic
5. Dream. Engage in 'Imagineering'. Set a goal. Aim high.
6. Act. Work your plan. Don't be an 'Excusiologists'.
7. Be single minded in your purpose.
8. Love your work.
9. Be focused at all times. Be dedicated, disciplined and regular in your work.
10. Show commitment.
11. Strive for excellence. Set your own benchmark.
12.'Sharpen the saw, 'Polish the brass' everyday.
13. Be humble and open- minded. Always wear your 'white belt'.
14. Be open to change. Don't be afraid of taking risks.
15. Don't be judgmental. Forgive and forget.
16. Develop a loving attitude to all around you.
17. Accept adversity and disappointments. Overcome them and emerge stronger.
18. Cultivate a working philosophy of life: Turn every experience, 'good' or 'bad', into a 'learning' experience.
19. Be your own critic. Strive for improvement. Be a life-long ardent student of life.
20. Live each day as though it were your last.
21. Lead. The five key *facets of leadership are..... Focus, Authenticity, Courage, Empathy, Timing.
22. Remember, we are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
Always, keep your face to the sun,and shadows will fall behind you.
Note:
*(Taken from one of the motivational Leadership article)

Be Positive

This may sound quite aberrant to most of the younger generations who are not really exposed to the personality development articles, books or motivational lectures.
Being positive does not indicate that we aren't able to handle a situation, which is of abstruse nature. Being positive means, seeing the opportunity, and seeing the best option that is available in any situation.
Generally people criticize themselves, time and other previous situations whenever, they are caught up in a problem, jinx etc.
People are bound to make mistakes; and they should, in fact to make your brains work. Yes, when you commit mistakes or things go wrong, as they may sometimes, you do not have to feel inferior, rather be strong and fight back, make yourself capable to handle such situations. Above all learn; the more you learn, the more you achieve. As it is very precisely said:
Arise, awake and stop not till you goal is achieved.
Here, goal may be anything; it might be effective handling or learning.
When i say LEARN; i mean:
L -LeadE -EffectiveA - AlertR - Realistic, ready, reasonableN - Natty (smart)
Remember, being effective, alert, realistic and natty not only helps and enables you to act pragmatically, but it also helps you in learning.
So, fear not my dear, rather strike hard and effectively. May this article bring lots of positive personality changes in you transforming your sole into a blend of intellect, boldness and bring out the natty features of yours whenever a hard task arises.
Last but not the least: "Believe in you".

Power of Positive Beliefs

I am an educator as well as a coach and am interested in what it is that brings out the best in the people with whom I work. Over the last few years I have read a great deal of research on the power of beliefs. I am convinced that it is essential that I hold, and communicate to my students or clients that I believe in their ability to learn, to heal, and to grow.
We have to hold and project these beliefs even when, or perhaps, especially when the person we are working with does not hold them. In a recent study, it was found that teenagers from economically disadvantaged families were more likely to attend college if their parents, especially their mothers, were optimistic about the teens chances of enrolling in college.
I read once about a teacher who was given a list of student names with numbers ranging from 125 to180 after their names at the beginning of the school year. Believing that she had been given a class of gifted students, she worked hard all year to provide opportunities for these students to do well. At the end of the year, she asked for another class of gifted students since they had all performed outstandingly. She was told that the numbers were their locker numbers, not their IQs.

The Two Choices We Face

Each of us has two distinct choices to make about what we will do with our lives. The first choice we can make is to be less than we have the capacity to be. To earn less. To have less. To read less and think less. To try less and discipline ourselves less. These are the choices that lead to an empty life. These are the choices that, once made, lead to a life of constant apprehension instead of a life of wondrous anticipation.
And the second choice?
To do it all!
To become all that we can possibly be. To read every book that we possibly can. To earn as much as we possibly can. To give and share as much as we possibly can. To strive and produce and accomplish as much as we possibly can. All of us have the choice.
To do or not to do. To be or not to be. To be all or to be less or to be nothing at all.
Like the tree, it would be a worthy challenge for us all to stretch upward and outward to the full measure of our capabilities. Why not do all that we can, every moment that we can, the best that we can, for as long as we can?
Our ultimate life objective should be to create as much as our talent and ability and desire will permit. To settle for doing less than we could do is to fail in this worthiest of undertakings.

Sharing Your Experiences and Your Potential!

Who dares to teach must never cease to learn. - John Cotton Dana
Example isn't another way to teach, it is the only way to teach. --Albert Einstein
Many people are living way below their potential. When you have started to play the game of how much potential you can summon up inside you, you can start to teach others.
It's no fun, if we are in this alone. It's no fun to be the only one in the gym. You want to share with your friends. Life is not only about you; it's about others as well. Imagine what kind of world we would be living in if everyone started to tap into their true potential. Imagine no more feeling bad about you. Imagine rising to the heights!
Let me take that back! Don't imagine any of them! CREATE THEM! YOU CAN! I DARE YOU! Are you ready for the greatest challenge in your life? You have so much in you. Don't let this life be lived in vain. I am on the same journey you are. There is so much that we can do for each other. I urge you to take this sincere message about your potential as seriously as possible. We don't know how much time we have left, but we can control how that time is spent! What do you want to do? Grab a towel, let's head to the gym of life's experiences and see what we can do with all that's available!

Love the Opportunity

Somebody said you have to love what you do, but that is not necessarily true. What is true is that you have to love the opportunity. The opportunity to build life, future, health, success and fortune.
Knocking on someone's door or making that extra call may not be something you love to do, but you love the opportunity of what might be behind that door or call.
For example, a guy says, "I'm digging ditches. Should I love digging ditches?" The answer is, "No, you don't have to love digging ditches, but if it is your first entry onto the ladder of success, you say, 'I'm glad somebody gave me the opportunity to dig ditches and I'm going to do it so well, I won't be here long.'"
You can be inspired by having found something; even though you are making mistakes in the beginning and even though it is a little distasteful taking on a new discipline that you haven't learned before. You don't have to love it, you just have to learn to appreciate where you live, appreciate opportunity and appreciate the person who brought you the good news; that found you.
Appreciate the person who believed in you before you believed in yourself, appreciate the person who said, "Hey, if I can do it, you can do it."
You might not like the stone you are on right now, but it's sure to be one of the stones that lead to great opportunities in the future.

Why Be Great?

Have you ever thought of what it would take to make you "truly great" at what you do?
Look around you at your employees and co-workers and ask yourself whether any of them are "truly great" at what they do. No doubt, some of them really excel at their jobs and at life, while others just seem to get by. What is it that separates those that excel from those that don't?
Is it education? Training? Commitment? Willingness to work extra hours?
Do those that excel posses better communication skills, or maybe those that excel also have better technical knowledge?
If you put these factors to the test, I think that you will be surprised by the answers. Because those that truly excel at anything have one key factor in common. Those that excel at anything are simply those that are most passionate about it.
With the Olympics just completed, you saw world- class athletes competing with one another to see who was the best of the best. You saw hundreds of dedicated, passionate athletes whose skill levels are so high that the difference in their performances are measured in tenths or even hundredths of a second. The worst of these athletes still possess amazing skills and perform at levels far above those that most of us could ever even conceive.
Certainly, the Olympic athletes have amazing talent, but they also work with an unprecedented dedication to perfect their skills. However, for them, it's a labor of love because of the passion that they feel for their sport. They did not become great in a day; instead, they have dedicated their lives to being great.

What is it that inspires you?

Have you ever thought? What inspires YOU? What is it that drives you day in and day out?
What is it that inspires you?
You can begin to see that if nothing inspires you, excites you, or lights up your life you are really missing something. You are just like a robot performing task after task. We believe that deep down you have places where you can be touched. You have a place that is solely ours. Solely for you to show the world. Can you name it?
However, what inspires you? What makes you go to that space where you continue to do what you do for hour after hour, when you forget the need to eat and drink. What is it that inspires you?
Some artists suggest that it is their imagination that inspires them. The need to tell the world what is going on in their heads. The links that they make. The different ways of viewing the world. After all literature, music and visual arts are all about the originator communicating with the rest of us.
When we tap into whatever it is that inspires us, we become a full member of society. We are able to share our ideas, thoughts and emotions. As we share and show our dreams, emotions, ideas, and thoughts then we gradually become to understand the person we truly are.
So, the role of inspiration is more than we first thought. More that just a drive to action. It actually enables you to understand the very essence of yourself and what you have to offer the world.
Inspiration gives you understanding.Inspiration gives you an identity.Inspiration gives you a way of being.
Can you really live without knowing what inspires you?

Human resist to change

All of us are resistant to change, whether it's in using a different tool, a technique a choice in partners, or lifestyle.
The ones that resist the most have big labels like, orthodox, traditionalist, and extremist. They are the defenders of the faith, of the known, and of the accepted.
Some of the rest of us are followers, disciples, and supporters; we are the middlemen, the ones that support the orthodox, the traditionalist and the extremist because after all without us what would these people be defending. We are the ones the cast the deciding votes for this group and the next group which are the leaders, the explorers and the visionaries.
All of these people are grouped together on a small planet with intention, it didn't happen by accident. What we are doing is creating chaos, and what chaos does, is drive us to create order or make sense of what it is we are doing.
In my day job, I am paired up with all of these kinds of people every day in their homes and I may spend as long as two hours in conversation with them.
I understand that those that I bring into my life represent opportunities for change and I bring them to me deliberately for purpose of change. I also know that I will not always recognize them as such. I know that opportunity always knocks more than once and that I live in choice and freedom that is unconditionally mine by my very nature as a spiritual human being. This one area flows easily from me without all the resistance. Symbols of resistance are acknowledgements for me that I can relate to and move past from awareness of their existence, and they do not need to be changed or ignored, but simply noticed as I would notice a turn in my path or a pothole in the road.
Resistance may be a human condition, but it is also spiritual because that is what we are, and it has purpose.

Who are you?

I have a question for you.
Who are you?
This may be a simply enough question but before you attempt to answer this question let us go on a voyage of personal self-discovery, which will allow you to find an acceptable answer.
The difference between the "Living" and the "Non Living" is the existence of the spiritual soul that manages the physical body from birth to death. The soul expresses itself through the five senses of the physical body. Without the soul, the physical body cannot express or maintain itself.
The reflection you see when you look into a mirror will be that of your physical body which gradually ages. Your soul is "seen" through your personality. You may look old when you look in a mirror but you could feel and act like a child.
The word "I" is used to refer to the experiences and wishes of the soul with statements such as "I am", "I love" and "I hope".
The word "My" is used to refer to the physical body, possessions and activities with statements such as "My hand" "My car" or "My job"
The advantage of knowing "who I am" is to realise and use the powerful spiritual energy that is within your body.
So back to the question, who are you?
I cannot give you the answer as only you know. I have just set the question to make you think.

7 Strategies to Overcoming Anxiety and Panic Attacks

1) READ: - Read as much as possible about anxiety and understand what are some of the causes. (Email me for link to books).
2) PROFESSIONAL HELP: - Go to a counselor or therapist to find the underlying cause of the anxiety. The physical discomforts are trying to get your attention - Pay attention to a greater dis-ease within. Pray God to send you to the right person. He will.
3) RELAXATION: - Listen to a tape or CD for RELAXATION This was one of the things that helped me tremendously. I needed to reprogram my mind with positive and true statements that were life giving and empowering. Click below for CD's and cassette tapes to help you overcome anxiety and panic attacks. Breathing correctly is a part of relaxation.
4) EXERCISE: - Physical exercise has tremendous value. It releases chemicals that generate good feelings, called pheromones. It's good to feel good!
5) HEALING IN GOD'S WORD: - Meditate on scriptures that enhance your trust in God. One scripture that helps me when I really let it sink in is: Matthew 5:25-34. Am I not more than a bird to God? You better believe it and so are you! Birds don't work or store up food yet God takes care of them. Wow! The next time you see a bird think about that!
6) MAP YOUR JOURNEY: - Create a time line by drawing on a sheet of paper when your first signs of discomfort started. Write down what major events happened at that same time. Note the year/date. Go back as far as you can. This process helps you to take a bird's eye view of your life. When I did this exercise, I found that the first time I experienced a full panic attack was in 1984 and I had just made a major move from someone very dear to me. I also discovered that their agoraphobia before any panic attack ever appeared. Do this it will help you understand what has been going on and what triggers extreme anxiety. (You may need to use than one piece of paper).
7) God’s Power to Heal: - Remember, God still heals. We must let go of all the passed disappointments, and betrayals. God is not like any human being with whom we have had a relationship. God faithful and just. Jesus walked this earth so you can talk to Him about yours trials. Pray as the early disciples did, "Lord, increase my faith". FAITH is the opposite of anxiety. Faith not only pleases God but keeps us trusting in God's fatherly care. I am a witness!! Praise God!

Easy Ways You Can Feel Happier, Be Healthier and Live Longer

Let's just say? First thing when you popped out of bed this morning, you woke up and found a little yellow post-it note stuck on the bathroom mirror that could transform your life. You smiled, instantly recognizing this very familiar word.
With so much to gain and absolutely nothing to lose, are you ready to take these 10 tips to heart so you can giggle a little, snicker some, chuckle boisterously, cackle raucously, snort unexpectedly and hoot and holler through happy tears of joy? Wrap yourself in a humorous perspective and laugh your way to a seriously healthy, happy and upbeat life!
Here are five easy ways to grab more giggles and exercise your funny bone?
1. Get a Funny Buddy. Unite yourself with a laughing partner, friend, buddy or companion that you always know you can turn to for a laugh. Make a laughing agreement and shake on it, then surround yourself with more funny people. Make an effort to be around these lighthearted folks every chance you get.
2. Lose your wits. Be super silly for 10 seconds and let your brilliant foolish kid out to play.
3. Be a Silly Spectator. Stand back and scope out the outlandish, outrageous and crazy hilarity of humans. You will thank me the next time you are trying to ward off feelings of frustration and boredom in line at the DMV, out shopping or in the waiting room of the doctor's office. Take it up a notch, bring your entertainment home with you, and imitate their quirks, qualities or peculiarities that made you snicker earlier in the day.
4. Make Over the Ordinary. Recount your everyday experiences in a fun way and relive them! People laugh at the stuff they can relate to. It's the ordinary, everyday, run of the mill things we find funny. Some of the best sitcoms and funniest comedians (Seinfeld is a perfect example) create material out of the everyday perils of life. It's their passion and strong point of view that strikes an emotional cord in us and makes us burst out with laughter. Go for it and liven your stories up with attitudes, opinions, voices and dialects. Be spontaneous and let it fly!
5. Give Your Stories a Pay Off! The best stories have a punchy point, a profound lesson or a great big finish. Start with the end in mind. Give your friends a payoff for their attention. When you get close to the end, stop, take a deep breath and give the story a moment of silence. Let 'em dangle in anticipation before you end with a big bang! Adding more energy, impact and volume will give your story meaning, closure and give you the rewards of laughter.

Positive Mental Attitude

1. Smile


2. Laugh


3. Greet people courteously


4. Be enthusiastic


5. Dream. Engage in 'Imagineering'. Set a goal. Aim high.


6. Act. Work your plan. Do not be and Excusiologists’.


7. Be single minded in your purpose.


8. Love your work.


9. Be focused at all times. Be dedicated, disciplined and regular in your work.


10. Show commitment.


11. Strive for excellence. Set your own benchmark.


12. 'Sharpen the saw, 'Polish the brass' everyday.


13. Be humble and open- minded. Always wear your 'white belt'.


14. Be open to change. Don't be afraid of taking risks.


15. Don't be judgmental. Forgive and forget.


16. Develop a loving attitude to all around you.


17. Accept adversity and disappointments. Overcome them and emerge stronger.


18. Cultivate a working philosophy of life: Turn every experience, 'good' or 'bad', into a 'learning' experience.


19. Be your own critic. Strive for improvement. Be a life-long ardent student of life.


20. Live each day as though it were your last.


21. Lead. The five key *facets of leadership are... Focus, Authenticity, Courage, Empathy, Timing.


22. Remember, we are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Always, keep your face to the sun,and shadows will fall behind you.
Note:
*(Taken from one of the motivational Leadership article)

How to Use Humor to Improve Your Relationships

Humor has long been considered one of the most effective tools to judge the quality of any relationship. If there is laughter present, you can assume that the relationship is a healthy one. When the laughter ceases you can be quite certain that the relationship is on the down slide. This laughter barometer can be applied to any relationship at home, at work and at play. Laughter means that you're having fun and fun means that things are going well.. Look at the relationships around you. Do the couples laugh a lot together? Has the laughter stopped in some of your relationships?
Here are a few ideas you can use to make certain that laughter remains an ever-present reality in your relationships thus ensuring their quality and endurance. Remember introducing humor to previously humorless relationships might take time but the results will be worth the effort. Start slowly by working on your own fun loving, cheery disposition. Laughter and humor are contagious so it will not be long before others catch the bug.

• Remember that a sense of humor is learned, not inherited.


• Begin to cultivate an atmosphere of humor and laughter in your relationships. Try to enjoy and share humor as often as you can.


• Learn to laugh at yourself. If you don't, you leave the job to others.


• Watch comedy movies and television programs as often a possible.


• Encourage others to share their humor. Listen and appreciate it when they do. When someone sees that, you have enjoyed their humorous contribution they will be eager to continue sharing.


• If you don 't laugh as much as you used to and want to correct the situation start associating with humorous, fun loving people and avoid the downers.

Who Controls Your Mind

Who Controls Your Mind?

Few people are aware of the thoughts that pass through their minds. Thinking is performed like a habit, in an automatic manner. If the thoughts are positive, then it is all right, but if they are negative, they may cause trouble.

The mind is like small child, who accepts and takes for granted whatever it sees or hears, without judgment and without considering the consequences. If you let your mind behave as it likes and give it complete freedom, you lose your freedom.

We are constantly flooded with thoughts, ideas and information coming through the five senses, other people, the newspapers and TV. These thoughts, ideas and information penetrate the mind whether we are aware of this process or not.

This outside flow influences our behavior and reactions. It influences the way we think, our preferences, likes and dislikes. This means that we let outside powers shape our lives. So where is freedom?

Most people think and believe that their thoughts originate from them, but have they ever stopped and considered whether their thoughts, desires, likes and dislikes are really theirs? Maybe they are outside influences that they have unconsciously accepted.

In order to reduce the power of outside influences and thoughts on your life, you need to be aware of the thoughts and desires that enter your mind, and ask yourself whether you really like them, and are willing to accept them into your life. Analyze your motives and actions, and you will be surprised to find out that many of them were triggered by outside influences.

Learn not to accept every thought that you encounter. Find first whether it is for your own good to follow it. It may not be so easy at the start, because the mind will revolt against this control. If you want to be the master of your mind and life, you should not let other people's thoughts; desires and motives rule your life, unless you consciously choose so.

4 Little Known Secrets of Meditation

Secret #1: The True Purpose of Meditation
Many people feel a sense of fascination when confronted with the possibility of mystic visions, psychic intuition and heightened mental functioning. While meditators often report these sorts of improvements, these experiences should not be the primary reason for practice. The purpose of meditation is to bring us back to ourselves.
As we become healthier, happier and realize greater self-awareness, the other benefits of meditation begin to follow naturally -- improved mental functioning, greater intuition as well as greater access to unconscious resources and abilities.
Secret #2: Distraction Does Not Equal Failure
Meditation is not work in the sense that you have to "force" yourself to concentrate completely for long periods. If we consciously try to prevent thinking, it's going to have a negative impact on the meditation.
Instead, whenever we become lost in thought or confusion, we simply acknowledge those thoughts and then gently return the attention to the object of the meditation. We do this as many times as distraction or thought occurs. Eventually, the mind becomes calmer and discursive thought begins to slow.
Secret #3: Insight Alone Is Not Enough
Insight alone will not transform our lives. Meditation is likely to help us by giving us larger perspectives and increasing clarity of thought. However, although our sense of inner guidance might become stronger, unless we ACT on that guidance, we will never manifest the changes we truly want in our lives.
This doesn't just mean we need to take action in our outer world, for example, having an honest conversation with a friend or paying a bill.
It also means we must actively request the assistance of the unconscious in a clear and persistent way. When you do that, as I teach in "Secrets of Meditation, Energy and Manifestation," you find yourself magnetically drawn toward your dreams with an irresistible impulse.
Secret #4: Learn To Let Go
Once you have made your request, it's important that you let go. Don't be concerned with HOW you're going to get what you truly want in your life. Needing to know how can hamper the process of making it manifest in the outer world. Learn to trust your unconscious.
Some changes -- perhaps all of them -- will happen automatically. I have personally found that many of my destructive habits simply dropped away with minimal conscious effort.

Humans Who Are Disrespected Seek Revenge

The easiest way to gain enemies is to disrespect people. Inherently for some reason, humans who are disrespected more often than not seek revenge. This should be a warning of what happens in business deals, corporate brainstorming (with regards to hard earned and developed Organizational Capital) or even an outcast member of society. What is the most unfortunate situation in all of these instances is that the whole of the group loses from the possible ideas and innovations of these individuals. A corporate executive who starts to attack their peers at work starts and unending spiral of negativity, thus killing productivity, innovation and higher thought which is what a company most needs to succeed. In the case of an individual in society, we end up with those who withdraw their talents to the whole or plot the demise of the fiber holding the civilization together. We see this with vindictive writers, uni-bomber, and small fringe groups promoting their agendas.
As an observer of culture and society, philosophy and psychology, innovation and invention, science and religion, industry and philanthropy; I can safely say that although we have done better than any other previous civilization or country, we can do better and we must work on the elements which are needed to improve the flow of thought. Having participated in almost all categories of the human endeavor in our civilization, both from on the inside and outside, it often amazes me how we as a society over look some of the most obvious quick fixes to the unnecessary over indulged sound and fury which slows the forward progression of mankind at every turn. Think about this. The best time

Quotes to Think About

"There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance? That principle is contempt prior to investigation. ? Herbert Spencer"
Albert Einstein - "We are seeking for the simplest possible scheme of thought that will bind together the observed facts."
"If we do not expect the unexpected, we will never find it.” Heraclitus
"Human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives." - William James
"I feel that if we could be serious for an hour and really fathom, delve into ourselves as much as we can, we should be able to release, not through any action of will, a certain sense of energy that is awake all the time, which is beyond thought.” Jiddhu Krishnamurti, Madras, 1961

The ABCs Of A Great Life: J Is For Joviality

Laughter, humor, a lighthearted sense of being - all of these are an important part of a well balanced breakfast, er, life. Without humor, there is no hope. Without laughter, no love. In addition, with a heavy heart, we live only a life of sadness and despair. Our ability to laugh at our foibles and laugh with our friends is a key indicator for predicting how readily we'll bounce back from difficulties and how well we'll handle the curveballs that life throws our way, and a quick smile is always the best defense in a situation that's hit a sour note.
In addition, medical studies have shown that indeed, laughter is the best medicine. Not only does it flood our brain with "feel good" hormones and exercise our body's core trunk muscles with spontaneous and deep contractions, but it noticeably and effectively raises our immune system's defenses in ways that are only now being fully explored - an effect which lasts considerably longer than the laughter that triggered it. Laughing lowers your blood pressure and exercises the heart. It relieves stress and helps generate an overall stability of well-being.
People with notably jovial attitudes are seen as friendlier and better adjusted, and people are drawn to them like flies to honey. Socialization with peers becomes smoother and more enjoyable, and people can't wait to rejoin and reestablish the acquaintance of those with a good sense of humor.
Of course, this does not include "humor" that hurts - biting sarcasm, "witty" putdowns, jokes made at the expense of others, mockery and other such imposters. It is doubtful that any of these recreate the same effects as true humor and lightheartedness, and I know that they attract far fewer friends.
Go on laugh! It's good for you. Learn to bring laughter and joviality into your life and every step of the way will be filled with the warm embrace of good times spent with good friends in good health. Salut!

Desire is the First Step

Desire is the First Step

When a member of a species determines it wants something a thought is born, which triggers a desire and thus starts the brain into a cycle innovation and strategy. If it is hunger in a Bald Eagle, it means flying over the river to catch a Salmon. If it is a tourist who is cold, it means going in and buying a sweatshirt. This comes first and is the reason we must first discuss the flow of thought before we attempt to discuss any other issues in our society.
You see a species and this includes mankind will attempt to solve the problems or fulfill that which it desires. We cannot change that it is human nature. We must recognize this fact before we attempt to fix anything else in the World we live. We must make sure that we allow for the free flow of thought and of course the freedom of thought. We must value thought and not underestimate the desire instincts of our species. A penny for your thoughts is a very good price, you should be buying, that is definitely a buyers market so take all you can get. Yet, we do not. Different cultures feel different about the flow of thought. Moreover, even we are worried about the past freedoms, which were taken in other civilizations and have pondered what would happen with the thought police.
Recently we saw the movie "Minority Report" with Tom Cruise discussing such possibilities as the thought police. To this day people are concerned from writings of science fiction writers about the thought police concept and 1984 is mentioned each time we discuss the Department of Homeland Security; Big Brother syndrome and the fears it evokes are alive and well to this day. Such possibilities would in fact be the death of freedom, civilization and what we believe to be the proper direction of the human race. Desire is innate; suppression of innate desires is disastrous. Think about it.

Mental Health Stigma ?

What is Stigma?
Stigma is the use of stereotypes and labels when describing someone, and it is often attached to people who suffer from mental health issues. We don't fully understand how the brain works yet, but one thing we DO know is that it is an organ. Yet our society doesn't readily accept brain disorders the way we accept other organ disorders. Why is this so?
Stigma is a harsh reality for people who have mental health problems, because it prevents them from enjoying a normal and productive life. So many people today feel uncomfortable about mental health issues, despite the fact that there is growing evidence that more and more people are developing these problems. In fact, many people are so uncomfortable with the stigma that they would rather suffer in silence than get help they need.

Powerful Ways To Fire Up Your Motivation

It's so difficult to go on when everything seems to fail, isn't it?  Are there times in your life when you really want to call it "quits" because you just can't see any good results from allthe hard work you have done?
Hold your horses!
Never ever, think of giving up.  Winners never quit and quitters never win.  Take all negative words out of your mental dictionary and focus on the solutions with utmost conviction and patience. The battle is never lost until you have abandoned your vision. However, what if you are exhausted physically, mentally, and most of all emotionally?  Here are some sources of motivation to prompt you in reaching the peak of accomplishment.

1. The Overwhelming Feeling of Attaining your Desired End


2. The Reward System


3. The Powerful Force of Humanity


4. Take Care Of Your Health

Happiness To be

Happiness is a state of mind, so your state of mind at this moment makes all the difference.
You need to ask yourself, is it what you want, the thing that is going to make you happy?
If the answer is yes, does this mean that what you have must not be good enough?
We go through life searching, searching for a better job, better house, better car, better relationship, sometimes for many people this is a full time "occupation, always searching!
It seems to be a vicious circle for many of us, because the last job was the better one, now it is not, somehow it's lost its appeal, just as when you bought your car, it was going to make you happy but that was only for a short time, you soon became unhappy once you saw another newer model, so the car that was your dream car is no longer a dream.
Where does it end?
Well the answer is simple; it ends exactly where it starts, in your Mind.

How to be Happy

How To Be Outrageously Happy

You can be as happy as you want whenever you want. Zen masters have proven this - all you have to do is just "be" with whatever you have right now. Yeah, I know. Sitting on the floor contemplating your blank space may not be what you are after. Highly successful people are outrageously happy because they have fulfilling ways to meet their values. What are values? Well I am not talking about Dan Quayle and Murphy Brown, or Limp Bizkit's recent family value tour. Values are simply what are most important to you.

Do your values move you towards great possibilities? Is your energy directed towards meeting your values in ways that excite you and make you stronger, capable of going for even more? When you are clear on your values, your vision is bright, and you will feel primed to go for it.

About Self Love

How do I love myself?
Love of Self is simply a view of Self. If you view yourself with a great deal of compassion, and suspend all judgment, then replace that judgment with understanding, and compassion, you will come closer and closer to love your authentic self. So many people have taken on the views of others during their earlier years, and have not learned how to replace those views with the pure truth.
The way to do this is to immediately stop insulting yourself, cutting you down, and degrading yourself. This is paramount! Instead of saying: "I stink at this" say: "I am doing my best, and that is all that is needed." You have to bring all of the small insulting lies that you tell yourself up to your conscious awareness.
In order to truly love yourself, you must change how you view yourself, and that can only be with complete compassion, care, respect, and honestly taking a conscious effort to change the verbal abuse you dish out to yourself when you are not even aware of it most of the time.
Honor what makes you "different" because that is your unique Light that you are on this Earth to shine! Treat yourself the way you wish someone else would treat you, and always give yourself a heartfelt hug for the sacred person that you are.

Important Things to Know / Remember About Life

Important Things to Know / Remember About Life

• I love you not because who you are, but because who I am when I am with you


• There is no one in this world that worth your tears, and if they are, they will never make you cry.


• If someone loves you not in the way you would like to, it does not mean that they don not love you in their own way


• A good friend is the one that will hold your hand and will touch your heart.


• The worst way to miss someone is to sit right next to him or her, knowing you will never be with him or her.


• Never stop smiling even when you are sad. Someone might just fall in love with your smile.


• Do not waste your time with someone who does not care wasting his or her time with you.


• You might be just "a someone" in this world, but for someone, you are the entire world.


• You might need to need many "wrong" people before you will meet the "right" one. Like that, you will highly appreciate them will it will happen.


• Do not cry when it is over? Be glad that it happened.


• Do not "fight" for things to happen. The best things in life happen when you least expect them.


• Be a better person and know always where you are coming from and who you are before you meet someone new, and hope that they will know you whom you are.


• There will always be someone that will heart you, but you need to keep on trusting people? Just with more caution.

Inspired For Women

Inspired For Women
One man can make a difference. I've been saying this and writing around this subject matter for over a decade now. It is not to the exclusion of women as I originally used the phrase in reference to mankind or society if you prefer. A decade ago, my pursuit of the quest to make a difference, to be involved, to inspire ended up taking a back seat. Survival in the moment and dealing with family and health issues took the front seat. Now, most of that is behind me and to a large degree it has been women who have made the difference in my growth and healing; unique powerful, loving, nurturing women.
This post serves as a reminder, an acknowledgement, a song of praise, if you will, for women. It's important you realize just how powerful and wonderful you are as a woman, as a female, as someone who has a unique blueprint different from the male of our species. Your gift is priceless when used well with integrity and you conduct yourself from this seat of female power. It's not the media's and popular culture's representation of female wiles, cunning, and manipulation. No, it's the power of the nurturer and spiritual values.
I speak partly from my own experience that has a depth and richness that is so hard to explain. It also includes influence from historical perspectives and the recognition that almost every great man in history has attributed a large part of their success to the great woman in their life. I attribute it to the call in my heart and the need in my soul for that connection and healing balm that only the company of a woman can provide. How can words possibly express such complexity and yet such simplicity so that it is understood and owned by all women
It is my desire to empower each of you to be the greatest woman you can be. If I had any advice for your day-to-day living, I'd say look to women who are mature in experience and who have a healthy perspective on love, life, and relationships. Women who are successful in their relationships and careers without compromising the highest values that ring so true in all of our hearts.
I can also say that I have much to offer in one-on-one coaching as a result of my own life experience with women and my perspective on the unique power of women. I do this with female clients in my coaching business now and it is a huge honor for me. It pains my heart to see women limiting themselves due to poor self image and beliefs developed from family, peers, society, media and boys or men who have caused pain.
Do not hold back, be all that you are made to be.
Yes, one man can make a difference, but the truth is, Women make all the difference!
Peace, love, harmony - it is power.
Be divinely beautiful; it radiates from within.
Best wishes, Lee
Make a Difference

Love the Opportunity

Love the Opportunity
Somebody said you have to love what you do, but that is not necessarily true. What is true is that you have to love the opportunity. The opportunity to build life, future, health, success and fortune.
Knocking on someone's door or making that extra call may not be something you love to do, but you love the opportunity of what might be behind that door or call.
You can be inspired by having found something; even though you are making mistakes in the beginning and even though it is a little distasteful taking on a new discipline that you haven't learned before. You don't have to love it, you just have to learn to appreciate where you live, appreciate opportunity and appreciate the person who brought you the good news; that found you.
Appreciate the person who believed in you before you believed in yourself, appreciate the person who said, "Hey, if I can do it, you can do it."
If you will embrace the disciplines associated with the new opportunity you will soon find that your self-confidence starts to grow, that you go from being a skeptic to being a believer. Soon when you go out person to person, talking to people, you will find it to be the most thrilling opportunity in the world.
Every person you meet - what could it be? Unlimited! Maybe a friend for life. The next person could be an open door to retiring. The next person could be a colleague for years to come. It is major stuff. In addition, sometimes in the beginning when we are just getting started we don't always see how big it is.
So, before you are tempted to give up or get discouraged, remember all success is based on long term commitment, faith, discipline, attitude and a few stepping stones along the way. You might not like the stone you are on right now, but it's sure to be one of the stones that lead to great opportunities in the future.

Facing the Enemies Within

Facing the Enemies Within
We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning. However, once you learn to avoid that situation, you won't need to live in fear of it.
Fears, even the most basic ones, can destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.

How strong are you?

How strong are you?
I am not asking if you can carry 150 lbs. of weight. What I'm after is your strength of character. How resilient are you to hang on to your dreams amidst the raging forces of discouragement and criticisms?
There are far, too many individuals who never experienced the joy of attaining their desires because other people's influence has significantly (and sometimes negatively) affected their crucial decisions.
Are there instances in your life when other people said that you should not continue your plans because they're never got to work? What did you do? Did you continue your endeavors or did you just follow their command?
If you always adhere to other's beliefs and opinions even though they are contrary to yours, you're just torturing yourself. It is as if you don't have a mind of your own. You are like a shadow following the moves of someone else.
You may listen to other people's advices, but never let them control you. If their advices would contribute to your success and well being, then follow them. However, if they would hinder you and stray you away from what you really want in life, then you have to make a stand and pursue your heart's aspirations.
Sure there would be criticisms. However, if you always avoid them, then you will never be truly happy.
As one famous person said, "There is a sure way to avoid criticisms, be nothing and do nothing. This remedy never fails." True enough.

The Beauty of Life

An unexamined life is not worth living."-- Socrates
I have just finished reading a most astounding statement from A.H. Almaas's book Space cruiser Inquiry. In this book, which discusses the concept of open inquiry as an optimal way to get in touch with your true being, he gives a beautiful description of the beauty of life. The simplicity and beauty of this sentence struck me hard! He says, "The beauty of life is that it can be a continuous opening to the full range of experience and richness possible for the human being."
This was an extremely beautiful quote and had a very true ring to it. Life CAN be lived to be a continuous opening to the full range of experience and richness possible for the human being. In life you can find out what you're capable of doing; to continually explore, and then act on the discovery of that exploration to create more experiences to learn and grow even more. You can learn to become more flexible. You can start to experiment with your range; what you are capable of doing with your life. What you choose to do can be below the range of what you can do, but that is your choice; not a limitation that you are unaware of.
The important distinction is that you become aware of your full range of possibilities and then choose which possibility you want to act on rather than being limited because you are unaware of what you can do. Life offers us this chance to continually open up and become more aware of the powers that are residing within us. Are you using the change for this kind of growing that life offers? Or have you stopped inquiring and accepted the limited position, which tells you that you can't grow further? What you believe will determine what you do about exploring your true being and capabilities. What will you believe?

The Power of Inspiration

The Power of Inspiration

INSPIRATION can be a powerful thing. It can keep you going when all around you cry out "quit!" It is even more powerful than motivation, as motivation gives you your basic reasons to keep going--it tells you why you want to do what you do, because motivation is based on goals. These, in turn, may be based on necessity want or desire. However, inspiration fills those reasons with hope, possibility and enjoyment and keeps the "grind" from becomingt oo grindy. However, just what does inspiration consist of? I speculate two elements: vision and mission. Proverbs 29:18 says 'Where there is no vision, the people perish." A vision is the first step toward turning your motivation into inspiration. A person with a vision sees down the road. He can sense what it will be like six weeks, six months, a year, two years, five years and more ahead.
But how do you get a vision?, you ask. First, you need to narrow your perspective. You can’t attempt to "ride off in all directions at once," so to speak. Try to decide what it is you are looking for, so you'll know it when you see it. In other words, try to have in mind some general goals as to where you want to be six months a year, etc. from now. These goals will not only form the basis of your motivation but should also serve to limit to an extent the scope of your activity.
Once the vision is firmly implanted in your mind, let it become your driving force. Let the vision excite you with the possibility of its fulfillment and you will automatically begin the next step--you are on a mission. Your mission is to bring about the realization of the vision. If you keep the vision in mind, you will move forward in the mission, accomplishing enthusiasticallysystematically that which is necessary to bring the vision into reality. You will have developed a sense of excitement, importance and urgency, which will keep the fires of inspiration burning in your heart and moving you ever onward and upward.

Quotes For Positive Mind

1. Unless the secret of inward peace is also the secret of escape from fear, it does not meet a need I believe is almost the central need of mankind. If it be asked, "Why are so many people in the modern world anxious, worried, nervous, irritable, depressed, bad sleepers, and not quite well?" the answer in most cases is that they are frightened. . . . What, then, is the way to escape from the power of this ever-present enemy? I know none except learning that we are in the keeping of a God who will never desert us. . . . There is no fear where love is, and the love of God is always present. . . . Till we have faced that fact, we are not ready to understand what God does actually for those who trust in Him. But when we have learnt that truth, we may go on to say, "Come what may, we know that He will be with us and therefore need not fear." We may have to suffer in the body, but His sustaining grace will never leave us. We may lose our dear ones and so be wounded in our very hearts, but His grace will give us strength to carry even that cross. We may have to face poverty; but if so, He will do for us what He has done for thousands and teach us how to be poor and yet content. We may have to face hunger of the heart, and no one who knows what that means will ever think lightly of it; but even through that fiery trial, His love will sustain those who turn to Him.

---A. H. Gray

2. I have now reigned above fifty years in victory and peace, beloved by my subjects, dreaded by my enemies, and respected by my allies. Riches and honors, power and pleasure, have waited on my call, nor does any earthly blessing appear to be wanting for my felicity. In this situation, I have diligently numbered the days of pure and genuine happiness which have fallen to my lot: they amount to fourteen. O man, place not thy confidence in this present world!

--- Abd-er-Rahman III

3. Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power.

---Abraham Lincoln

Is The Glass Half-full Or Half-empty?

Keep focusing on the fullness of your life: Keep remembering your dreams, your strengths, your unique talents and skills. Be absolutely, uniquely, fully yourself and you have everything you need to create the life of your dreams. -Marc Allen

The reason you're not living your dreams is because not all parts of you are in alignment with your promise.

Your dream will not actualize until you have all the skills you need. Since it takes time to cultivate the full glass, you will find your glass only half-full or half-empty.
As you work on developing all your skills, you will also be buffeted by stronger forces.
If you want to be a writer, you have to learn the craft. Assuming you know how to be clear and expressive, you may still find yourself unpublished. So you need the additional skill of learning how to market your writing.

Only when all your skills are complete will you be able to fully express your dream.
This gap between talent and opportunity can be bridged once you discover what you need to learn.

While you're in this state of trying to develop the entire experience, you will face opposition. Stronger ego states and life conditions will press hard against you.
Those ego-states concerned with approval, safety, and control will keep you away from cultivating your dream.
Similarly environmental conditions arising from past experiences will distract you.
These two conditions are sufficient to keep most people living inauthentic lives, where they do what works but not what gives them true self-expression and joy.
It is at these times of trial and hardship that you may be tempted to focus on looking at the glass as half-empty.

Yet the only way to raise your child-genius into full maturity is to persist.
You have to hold your vision despite low moods, alternate desires, and pressing circumstances.
Talent is seldom nurtured in ideal environments. Usually, you have to tend the small flame of your dreams in the face of strong winds. Only by persisting will you eventually have a fire greater than an opposing draft.
You keep your dreams alive by focusing on how far you've come.
You have to hold your vision and practice it.
When you persist in this way, you'll move closer to your goals.
When you persist long enough, you'll find yourself living your dream.

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Saleem Rana got his Masters degree in psychotherapy from California Lutheran University. His articles on the internet have inspired over ten thousand people from around the world. Discover how to create a remarkable life
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