Discernment and Judgement

Discernment is an inner guide or compass. It is loving and expansive, and offers freedom, honor and options. Judgment on the other hand dishonors, condemns, and contradicts.
Judgment is all about others. It always sets up a polarity or emotional value of this is good and this is bad. An example of this is: A person looks at a brown car and decides brown cars are boring and ugly.
Being judgmental forms a vicious cycle. The very nature of judgment is to always focus or look at the bad. Moreover, "like attracts like" looking for the bad becomes the black DOT, or primary focus. The alarming reality of this is, not only does one only focus on the bad in others, but also that is all they can see about themselves. To be honest, one first becomes intimate with their own feelings of shame and inferiority. Then as a way to get relief, they target someone else to shame, so they can feel superior (rather than inferior).
Discernment on the other hand is assessing a situation objectively, with no emotional attachment, to decide what ones decision is. In this case: A person looks at the brown car and decides they do not care for the color of the car. Discernment is all about oneself this is not for me. Discernment does not offer excuses, blame others or make empty promises. Discerning individuals do not change the facts to what they think they should say, they conform their actions to the facts.
Discerning individuals accept others just as they are. In addition, they are aware they have choices or options that can assist them so their best interest is served. For example, I accept that my co-worker talks a lot about how "rough" her life is. For me, this is not something I enjoy hearing or taking a part in. In a conversation if I notice she is doing this, I have options on what I can do. I can change the direction of the conversation to a topic that we both enjoy; I can excuse myself from her company, etc. Discernment is all about choosing what kind of experience and life you want for yourself.

Keep Hope Alive - Emily Dickinson

"Hope is the thing with feathers That perches in the soul, And sings the tune without the words, And never stops at all.." ~ Emily Dickinson
A bittersweet quality permeates the air in September. In the northern hemisphere, we say our reluctant goodbyes to summer. When September rolls around there is something in our early programming that kicks in. We gear up for all of the activities associated with fall. Kids return to school and we all begin to pick up the pace.
We never really do finish school while we are alive on this planet. We continue to learn life lessons and hopefully grow through all of our experiences. Much of our earlier training at home and school prepares us to face life as warriors or worriers. The good news is that we can learn to become more resilient if we are willing to do our "hope" work. That's right. That wasn't a typo. I meant, "hope" work. Too many of us have been basing our lives for far too long, on what is reasonable and evident rather than on faith and belief.

Important Things to Know / Remember About Life

• I love you not because who you are, but because who I am when I am with you


• There is no one in this world that worth your tears, and if they are, they will never make you cry.


• If someone loves you not in the way you would like to, it does not mean that they don not love you in their own way


• A good friend is the one that will hold your hand and will touch your heart.


• The worst way to miss someone is to sit right next to him or her, knowing you will never be with him or her.


• Never stop smiling even when you are sad. Someone might just fall in love with your smile.


• Do not waste your time with someone who does not care wasting his or her time with you.


• You might be just "a someone" in this world, but for someone, you are the entire world.


• You might need to need many "wrong" people before you will meet the "right" one. Like that, you will highly appreciate them will it will happen.


• Do not cry when it is over? Be glad that it happened.


• Do not "fight" for things to happen. The best things in life happen when you least expect them.


• Be a better person and know always where you are coming from and who you are before you meet someone new, and hope that they will know you for who you are.


• There will always be someone that will heart you, but you need to keep on trusting people? Just with more caution.